Witness for Christ Blog

Why is true love so hard to find? If we are searching for true love then there must be plenty of false or fake love abounding all around. So what is the difference?

If you are driven by your feelings you are sure to be misled. The paradox is that the moment you choose to forget about your own big self and consider someone else's welfare ahead of yours - then you release an open door for you to be blessed in return.

How does that work? Well your actions always speak louder than your words. So if you are found doing something worthwhile for someone who can never pay you back - that adds some brownie points into your love account...

You can't play split personalities. If you are one kind of person in public - that is also the person you will be in private. If you ignore the plight of your fellows at work, you won't be much fun to be around at home.

Discover the boomerang effect. It is by helping others reach their full potential that you will empower yourself to be loved and become who you ought to be. Bizarre isn't it? Maybe too many people you have come across are singing to themselves the trilogy of me, myself and I. How much baggage do you carry around from the failure of past relationships? How much of that failure were you responsible for? Did you learn anything good out of it? Are you about to re-offend just in the vain hope that your needs might be met this time? Why do lonely people go from one disaster to another? Is it bad luck, is it selfishness? The truth is that hurt people continue to hurt others out of their single-mindedness.

The cure? Do yourself a favour. Go and find an unlovable person and break their defense barriers by showing that you truly care for that person. Go and do the groceries for an elderly person. Use your car to drive a disabled person to places. Record books on tape for a blind person. Mind the children of a single mum while she is seeking work. Do you need any more suggestions?

Then when you front up to your next blind-date you will have stories to tell that might shine some light on your true character. A loving person worth loving in return. Someone has to start first. It might as well be you...

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. (1 Cor 13:4-7 NIV)

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